Still Waiting? How to Stay Sane When Slow Texters Take Forever to Text Back

If you have ever stared at your phone wondering why it's so hard to get a reply, you're not alone. Here's how to deal with slow texters without losing your cool.

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We all have that one contact who seems to text like they’re typing with oven mittens. You send a message in the morning and by night, you’re still refreshing your screen. Did they see it? Did they forget? Should you double-text? Or just accept defeat?

Dealing with slow texters is frustrating, especially when digital communication feels like the norm. But the truth is, some people simply don’t operate on the same reply clock. Their version of “I’ll get back to you soon” might mean later tonight, tomorrow or, on a bad week, never.

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For your own sanity, it helps to shift your mindset. First, stop assuming silence equals disinterest. Many slow texters might be busy, overwhelmed or just not glued to their phone. Some people like to respond when they have more time to think. Others are battling notification fatigue and digital burnout.

Instead of sitting in uncertainty, try this:

• Don’t take it personally.  How someone texts says more about them than it does about you.

• Set your own pace.  If you know it takes them hours to respond, adjust your expectations. You don’t need to wait by your phone.

• Talk about it.  If their slow replies are making you feel ignored or anxious, it is okay to bring it up calmly.

• Fill your time.  Stay occupied. Let texts be a part of your day, not the centre of it. Redirect your energy and have real conversations with people who are present and responsive.

Texting should make life easier, not more stressful. You cannot control how fast someone replies, but you can control how much mental space you give it — especially if they are not showing the same level of investment. Instead of spiralling, channel that energy into meaningful interactions with people who are happy to hear from you.